The holiday season can feel like a test of endurance, especially if stress, loneliness, or financial strain outweigh feelings of joy. For those of us navigating grief, estrangement, or simply feeling out of sync with the glittery expectations, this time of year can be overwhelming. But please remember: you’re not alone. There are gentle, compassionate ways to ground ourselves and find meaning amidst the noise.
Why the Holidays Can Feel Heavy
Stress and Pressure: Gift-giving, social obligations, and high expectations can leave you feeling depleted
Loneliness: If you’ve experienced loss, estrangement, or are physically far from loved ones, the season can magnify feelings of isolation
Financial Strain: The costs of gifts, travel, and events can create additional pressure, making it harder to focus on joy
Tips for Navigating the Season
1. Put on Your Shoes and Step Outside
Nature can be a balm for the soul. Stroll in the park, a hike in the woods, or simply a walk through your neighbourhood can help restore your balance.
Thich Nhat Hanh often said, “People ask me, ‘Why do you do walking meditation?’ The best answer I can give is, ‘Because I like it. Every step makes me happy.’”
Take a few moments to breathe deeply, feel the ground under your feet, and notice the sounds around you. Even a brief walk can help you feel more grounded.
2. Set Boundaries and Focus on What Matters
You are not obligated to do everything or make everyone happy.
Politely decline invitations or traditions that feel overwhelming
Choose activities that genuinely bring you peace or joy
Let go of perfectionism. Your well-being is more important than crossing off every task on your holiday to-do list
Remember, saying “no” to others can mean saying “yes” to yourself.
3. Create Your Own Traditions
If traditional celebrations don’t fit this year, craft new ones that honour where you are now. The beauty of traditions is that they can evolve with us.
Light a candle in memory of a loved one
Spend the day volunteering, giving meaning to the season in a unique way
Gather with chosen family or dedicate time for personal reflection and gratitude
There’s no one “right” way to celebrate. The best traditions are those that resonate with your current reality.
4. Limit Social Media and Focus on Real Connections
Social media often amplifies an unrealistic, picture-perfect version of the holidays. Behind those curated photos are real people with struggles and vulnerabilities, just like you.
Step away from social platforms if they heighten feelings of inadequacy or loneliness
Replace scrolling with activities that nourish your soul: journaling, reading, listening to music, or calling a friend
Remind yourself that perfection doesn’t exist, and you’re enough just as you are
A Gentle Reminder
The holiday season doesn’t have to follow a script to be meaningful. Prioritize what nourishes you. Be kind to yourself. Honour your feelings. And know that it’s okay to take each day at your own pace.
Feeling the holidays weigh heavy this year? Go outside, breathe in the crisp air, and take the first step toward creating a season that aligns with your peace and joy. 🌿
Let’s start building a season of support and alignment together.
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Monika Kawka | Leadership Coach for Women | Gallup Certified Coach | Leadership Coaching for Women | Leadership Strategies for Women
Thank you for your wisdom.
Very thoughtful, timely article - just what I needed to hear at this time of year.