Lead From Within: The Real Work of Transformational Leadership

For decades, we’ve upheld a leadership model that rewards dominance, speed, accumulation, and control. We’ve glorified status, profits, and personal gain. We’ve fought over territories, extracted resources, and equated leadership with knowing all the answers.

And yet, where has that gotten us?

We now produce more waste than we can manage. According to the World Bank, the world generates 2.01 billion tonnes of solid waste annually, projected to rise to 3.4 billion tonnes by 2050. Our climate is warming, not just due to corporate emissions, but because the average household today consumes 30 times more energy than it did a century ago.

Stress and loneliness are epidemic.

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” - often attributed to Einstein

Something’s not working.

It’s time to lead differently.

The Call for Transformational Leadership

Transformation isn’t about doing more. It’s about becoming more, more conscious, more human, more aligned.

Transformational leadership calls us to this deeper work. It asks us to pause, to question the status quo, and to lead not just with skills, but with soul.

As a transformational leadership coach, I guide clients from surface-level fixes to soul-level shifts. Whether they’re executives, entrepreneurs, or change makers, they come to coaching when something within whispers: there must be more than this.

Together, we explore what truly matters, values, purpose, and legacy, not as buzzwords, but as anchors for living and leading with intention.

And I do this work not just because I’ve studied it, but because I’ve lived it.

My Own Turning Point

Three years ago, I became Executive Director of a hospice organization on Vancouver Island. That shift came after being laid off from a tech company that prided itself on “hiring fast and firing fast.” It was a place obsessed with scale, speed, and surface-level success. To a narcissistic boss, I was “too empathetic, too slow”, not aggressive enough, not enamoured with the metrics that mattered to them.

That moment could have shattered my confidence. Instead, it broke me open.

Hospice work wasn’t in my plan. I had no background in palliative care or nonprofit leadership.

And yet, I said yes. I’m so glad I did.

Living the Transformation

In that first year, I inherited an organization carrying some neglect. Unspoken tensions. Legacy issues. Silos and disconnect. Resistance to change masked as loyalty.

I drew boundaries. I made hard decisions. Some people left. Their departures stirred discomfort, even anger. But they also sparked reflection. Slowly, our culture began to shift.

We built feedback loops. At first, people hesitated. But as trust grew, so did their voices.

Today, feedback flows more freely. Decisions are co-created. We’re stronger because of it.

We dismantled silos. I invited voices from across the organization. People no longer just “do their job”, they lead from where they are.

There’s more connection, clarity, and shared purpose.

We talked about what really matters. The organization talks about death. About grief. About life. Those conversations cracked something open in me, too.

I became more honest with myself. More present. More whole.

The Inner Work of Transformational Leadership

This journey helped me re-discover what I stand for. The experience, the doubt, the discomfort, became a crucible. I met parts of myself I had long avoided: the fear of not being enough, the weight of over-responsibility, the desire to be liked. I faced those inner dragons not with a sword, but with curiosity.

At that tech company, I didn’t agree with the values. Yet I stayed. Why?

What was happening in my inner world that made me quiet my voice, override my instincts, and stay in a place that didn’t align?

I came to realize: I create, lead, and build not for validation, but because I deeply care.

I care about the people I work with. I care about leaving teams and organizations stronger than I found them. I care about the quality of what we create, and the impact it leaves behind. And I care about sharing what I’ve learned, because learning is how I’ve survived, grown, and evolved.

I also realized something else:

Everyone is looking for love. But we get to choose where we look for it, and where we don’t.

Work is not where we go to be loved. Work is where we go to serve, with integrity.

That clarity is a kind of liberation.

Because when you’re no longer seeking approval in every interaction, you’re free to listen, to learn, to take feedback without defensiveness.

“The moment you stop needing the approval of others is the moment you become truly powerful.”– Caroline Myss

You can ask hard questions, challenge what isn’t working, and embrace change, not because it guarantees applause, but because it aligns with what matters most.

Doing our job well, with care and professionalism, doesn’t mean abandoning our self-worth or chasing gold stars.

It simply asks us to be faithful: To who we are. To the role we’ve chosen. To the future we’re helping build.

This is where transformational leadership truly begins: not with strategy or systems, but with self.

Because if we don’t see our own inherent value, we will forever chase expectations that were never ours to carry. We’ll lead from scarcity instead of wholeness. From fear instead of trust. From proving instead of creating.

But when we lead from within, anchored in worthiness, not performance, we create space for others to do the same.

And that changes everything.

So What Is Transformational Leadership?

It’s not a tactic. It’s a practice. A courageous practice of turning inward before reaching outward.

Transformational leadership begins with the inner work of self-examination. It starts with a pause, a willingness to ask:

• What am I feeling right now?

• Where is this reaction coming from?

• Is it about this moment, or is it echoing something from my past?

  
  

Often, the situations that challenge us most are mirrors. They reflect not just the present, but unprocessed parts of our younger selves, old wounds, unmet needs, stories we've carried for too long.

Transformational leaders learn to recognize this. They build the capacity to distinguish the past from the present, and to choose, consciously and courageously, what future they are creating.

Because the past is no longer in our control. But the future? That’s within reach.

Without this kind of inner reckoning, we risk leading reactively, tackling complex social and organizational challenges while unknowingly weighed down by the unresolved stories of our own lives.

Transformational leadership invites us to do the deeper work so we’re not led by our history, but by our values, our vision, and our capacity to respond with intention.

It’s about being present. We’re being called to lead with integrity, to know our values, act in alignment, and re-examine them as we grow. It means listening deeply, to others and to ourselves.

It means balancing humility with intuition.

We will stumble. We won’t please everyone. But our responsibility remains: to lead with courage, care, and consciousness.

The Ripple Effect of Transformational Leadership

When we lead from within, the transformation doesn’t stop with us, it radiates outward, shaping how we show up in every space we touch.

The Individual

Reconnected with their inner compass, the individual no longer chases someone else’s definition of success. They begin living in alignment with their own values, grounded in purpose, power, and presence. They stop performing and start creating, crafting a life that is true, not just impressive. No longer stuck in the past or lost in the future, they lead from the present moment with clarity and intention, building a future rooted in meaning rather than metrics.

The Team

Silos dissolve and circles emerge. In a culture of trust, people speak up, take initiative, and hold one another accountable, not from fear, but from care. Leadership is shared. Everyone leads from where they are. These teams are resilient, adaptive, and capable, even in the leader’s absence. They don’t just function, they flourish. Others are drawn to their cohesion, their honesty, and their quiet power.

The Community

The impact expands beyond the organization. Communities led by transformational leaders become more inclusive, more courageous, and more compassionate. They make space for diversity, not just of identity, but of thought. People feel safe to ask questions, challenge the status quo, and imagine new possibilities. Curiosity is welcomed. A questioning consciousness becomes the norm, not the exception. And when it’s safe to question, it becomes possible to evolve.

The World We’re Creating

We don’t need more leaders who know it all.

We need leaders who know themselves, and who help others access their own wisdom.

Not loud leaders, but grounded ones.

I believe the toxicity we see in leadership stems from unhealed wounds. Without healing, the cycles repeat.

Healthy confidence isn’t about ego, it’s about alignment. It’s the kind of strength that stands tall in uncertainty, listens deeply, and leads with courage and care.

Transformational leadership requires this kind of grounded confidence, rooted in self-worth, aligned with values, and open to growth.

We need leaders with the humility to listen, the courage to speak truth, and the imagination to build something better. That’s the heart of transformational leadership. And it’s the heart of transformational coaching.

An Invitation

If you’re at a crossroads, or quietly waking up to something deeper, I invite you to pause and ask:

• Who am I becoming?

• What needs to shift within me for things to shift around me?

  
  

Because real change starts from within.

Ready to Begin?

You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to start, from where you are. And choose to lead from within. To trust that quiet whisper: there must be more than this.

If this resonates with you, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you.

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The path of transformational leadership begins with a single, courageous step inward.

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Hi, I’m Monika, Strengths Coach and facilitator. I help individuals and groups cultivate resilience, emotional intelligence, and well-being through strengths-based coaching. Passionate about transformative and creative leadership, I empower leaders to drive meaningful change within themselves, their organizations, and beyond.

I hope you’ll visit often, and I look forward to connecting and working together!